by findingmyplanb | Jul 26, 2021 | Blog
Dreaming of a Life Unlived is 5 years old today! 5 years ago, today my baby was born. Dreaming of a life Unlived came to life on the 26 July 2016 and it’s been such a joy to watch her grow and touch those who have got to know the stories within the pages of my book....
by findingmyplanb | Feb 1, 2026 | Blog
The question “What am I lying to myself about?” has stayed with me since listening to a podcast hosted by Johnny Lawrence in conversation with Donna Lancaster – a conversation that stayed with me long after I’d finished listening. Johnny and I met through...
by findingmyplanb | Oct 31, 2025 | Blog
October draws to a close, and with it, another Black History Month. Across the country, workplaces, schools, and communities have been celebrating Black excellence, resilience, and joy. There’s power in the visibility, the acknowledgment, the reminder that we have...
by findingmyplanb | Oct 25, 2025 | Blog
When I came across a LinkedIn post by Charmaine Simpson about the ‘Mississippi Appendectomy’ – the forced sterilisation of poor Black women through hysterectomies without their consent – I was reminded of the anger, sadness and disbelief I felt when I...
by findingmyplanb | Oct 17, 2025 | Blog
World Menopause Day is a moment to lift silence, shift narratives, and affirm that menopause is not just a physical transition, but also a site of deep emotional, social, and identity-shaping change.For many women, especially those who were unable to have the children...
by findingmyplanb | Oct 12, 2025 | Blog
The Weight of the Room Yesterday, I had the honour of being one of three keynote speakers at the BAATN Conference, where the theme was belonging. I went in wondering whether I’d pitched my talk in the right way. What unfolded left me wishing for more. What began as a...
by findingmyplanb | Oct 5, 2025 | Blog
When I was at school, Black history was squeezed into a neat little box. We learnt about slavery – I think (on reflection I can’t even remember if this was taught at school). I definitely didn’t learn about Martin Luther King or Rosa Parks while I was there, although...
by findingmyplanb | Sep 20, 2025 | Blog
As we draw to the end of World Childless Week, I won’t say “until next year” because these conversations don’t pause; they remain on our lips as we keep breaking the silence around our journeys of living without children. I sit back with joy as I reminisce on this...
by findingmyplanb | Jul 26, 2025 | Blog
July 26th: Our Story Turns Another Page Dreaming of a Life Unlived turned another year older. My baby is now 8 and she’s fierce, full of feeling, and ever so slightly dramatic (just like me, really). If you’d told me all those years ago, when I was staring at a...
by findingmyplanb | Jul 13, 2025 | Blog
Inclusion is not only about who is in the room, but whose stories are given space to breathe. On 9 July 2025, I was invited by Clyde & Co to deliver a lunchtime session titled “The Silent Grief: Understanding and Supporting the Childless Not By Choice...
by findingmyplanb | Jun 8, 2025 | Blog
When I was invited to speak at the Climate Justice Museum Late Night event at Oxford’s Museum of Natural History, I’ll admit I paused. Not because I didn’t want to be part of it but because I wondered: where do stories of infertility, fibroids, and reproductive...
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