Blog
Welcome to my blog, where I share reflections on involuntary childlessness, identity, and the many ways we find meaning beyond motherhood. Here, I write openly about women’s wellbeing, inclusion, and the realities of living a life that doesn’t follow the expected path. My aim is to start honest conversations, challenge assumptions, and offer connection for anyone navigating life without children — by choice or by circumstance.
What does legacy mean?
What does legacy mean? On grief that stays, and the lives we continue to build alongside it It’s a word we often save for the end of a life. For what (physically) is left behind. For what remains when someone is no longer here. But I’ve been sitting with it...
What Does Your Garden Need?
What Does Your Garden Need? Preparing the Heart to Grow On Sunday 12th April, I joined Soulful Sunday - usually held by the wonderful Donna Lancaster. This week, it was beautifully facilitated by Sarah Barker, who brought us into the garden. Not the kind you tend with...
What Am I Lying to Myself About? Patriarchy, Motherhood, and the Things We Lean On
The question “What am I lying to myself about?” has stayed with me since listening to a podcast hosted by Johnny Lawrence in conversation with Donna Lancaster - a conversation that stayed with me long after I’d finished listening. Johnny and I met through Donna’s...
When the Month Ends, Our Work Begins
October draws to a close, and with it, another Black History Month. Across the country, workplaces, schools, and communities have been celebrating Black excellence, resilience, and joy. There’s power in the visibility, the acknowledgment, the reminder that we have...
Sterilised Silence: The Ongoing War Over Black Women’s Wombs
When I came across a LinkedIn post by Charmaine Simpson about the ‘Mississippi Appendectomy’ - the forced sterilisation of poor Black women through hysterectomies without their consent - I was reminded of the anger, sadness and disbelief I felt when I first heard...
Menopause, Motherhood & Meaning: Why World Menopause Day Matters for Women Without Children
World Menopause Day is a moment to lift silence, shift narratives, and affirm that menopause is not just a physical transition, but also a site of deep emotional, social, and identity-shaping change.For many women, especially those who were unable to have the children...
From Invisible Wounds to Shared Belonging: Reflections from the BAATN Conference
The Weight of the Room Yesterday, I had the honour of being one of three keynote speakers at the BAATN Conference, where the theme was belonging. I went in wondering whether I’d pitched my talk in the right way. What unfolded left me wishing for more. What began as a...
BHM: Reclaiming Narratives and Telling the Stories History Forgot
When I was at school, Black history was squeezed into a neat little box. We learnt about slavery – I think (on reflection I can’t even remember if this was taught at school). I definitely didn’t learn about Martin Luther King or Rosa Parks while I was there, although...
Speaking Our Stories: Panels, Power, and the Path to Belonging
As we draw to the end of World Childless Week, I won’t say “until next year” because these conversations don’t pause; they remain on our lips as we keep breaking the silence around our journeys of living without children. I sit back with joy as I reminisce on this...
Dreaming of a Life Unlived: A Birthday Reflection
July 26th: Our Story Turns Another Page Dreaming of a Life Unlived turned another year older. My baby is now 8 and she’s fierce, full of feeling, and ever so slightly dramatic (just like me, really). If you’d told me all those years ago, when I was staring at a...
The Silent Grief at Work
Inclusion is not only about who is in the room, but whose stories are given space to breathe. On 9 July 2025, I was invited by Clyde & Co to deliver a lunchtime session titled "The Silent Grief: Understanding and Supporting the Childless Not By Choice...
Climate Justice Begins with the Body: Reflections from the Museum Late Night Event
When I was invited to speak at the Climate Justice Museum Late Night event at Oxford’s Museum of Natural History, I’ll admit I paused. Not because I didn’t want to be part of it but because I wondered: where do stories of infertility, fibroids, and reproductive...