Changing the Narrative:
Empowering Women
Living Without Children
What began as personal grief over involuntary childlessness evolved into a driving force for change.
Today, I am an author, activist, and facilitator who champions the stories and identities of women who longed for motherhood but whose paths unfolded differently — raising awareness and understanding of their experiences, transforming deep loss into solidarity, and silence into spaces of connection, healing and belonging.
A little about me…
The question “Do you have children?” once filled me with dread. For years I laughed it off, hiding the pain that followed my diagnosis of unexplained infertility. Processing that grief changed everything — it led me to Gateway Women, a community for women who are childless by circumstance, and helped me find my voice.
From that healing came my first book, Dreaming of a Life Unlived: Stories and Portraits of Women Without Children — a collection born from love, truth, and the determination to make our experiences visible.
A Little About Me…
Today, I am an author, activist, speaker, and facilitator creating spaces where women who longed for motherhood — especially Black women and women of colour — can speak openly about loss, belonging, and identity. I’ve shared my story on BBC Radio 4’s Woman’s Hour and numerous platforms, helping to change the narrative around the untold experiences of women living without children.
As a trained facilitator, psychodynamic therapist, and graduate of Gateway Women’s Plan B Mentorship Programme, I facilitate workshops, retreats, healing circles and conversations that transform silence into connection and grief into collective healing.
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Blog
When the Month Ends, Our Work Begins
October draws to a close, and with it, another Black History Month. Across the country, workplaces, schools, and communities have been celebrating Black excellence, resilience, and joy. There’s power in the visibility, the acknowledgment, the reminder that we have...
Sterilised Silence: The Ongoing War Over Black Women’s Wombs
When I came across a LinkedIn post by Charmaine Simpson about the ‘Mississippi Appendectomy’ - the forced sterilisation of poor Black women through hysterectomies without their consent - I was reminded of the anger, sadness and disbelief I felt when I first heard...
Menopause, Motherhood & Meaning: Why World Menopause Day Matters for Women Without Children
World Menopause Day is a moment to lift silence, shift narratives, and affirm that menopause is not just a physical transition, but also a site of deep emotional, social, and identity-shaping change.For many women, especially those who were unable to have the children...