Blog
Welcome to my blog, where I share reflections on involuntary childlessness, identity, and the many ways we find meaning beyond motherhood. Here, I write openly about women’s wellbeing, inclusion, and the realities of living a life that doesn’t follow the expected path. My aim is to start honest conversations, challenge assumptions, and offer connection for anyone navigating life without children — by choice or by circumstance.
We are born into stories…
I went to a lecture in London earlier this year that was presented by Professor Helen Milroy. Helen is a descendant of the Palyku people and talks about using art as a form of healing and about her research/ work around Aboriginal mental health that includes recovery...
Should White People Adopt Black Kids?
I saw Jada Pinkett Smith's latest Red Table topic talk today with Kristin Davis from Sex and the City - I just love both these shows. The title 'Should White People Adopt Black Kids?' did intrigue me as it's something that I've questioned myself over the years. As a...
You Reap What You Sow!?!?
I was talking to a friend about God and religion (as you do), pretty much telling her that I don't believe that God plays chess. I don't believe that God picks and chooses who gets what blessings and when just because that person prayed for it or because they are...
Another door opens…
Everyday I am touched and amazed at the opportunities that are coming my way...
Does Colourism Exist???
A few weeks ago a friend forwarded an article from the The Guardian newspaper titled "Why dark-skinned black girls like me aren't getting married". I don't remember ever wondering why dark-skinned black girls were not getting married or if in fact there was any issues...
Fertility Fight Club
I am sitting here singing the song 'I've had the time of my life' from Dirty Dancing, as I reflect on yesterday's Fertility Fight club. It was an amazing and rewarding experience. I was so nervous leading up to the day. I was unsure about my speech - 'am I saying the...
Infertility Doesn’t Discriminate
"Infertility Doesn't Discriminate', So Why Are Women Of Colour Suffering In Silence?" After all this time I am still surprised and pleased when someone contacts me to talk because they heard an interview I'd done or because they want to interview me for a particular...
What do you see?
I listened to BBC Radio 4s podcast 'Queenie' last weekend. Queenie is the debut novel by Candice Carty-Williams, a darkly comic and unflinchingly raw depiction of a young woman trying to navigate her way in the world. Click here to listen I came across this purely by...
The Fertility Forum
Thanks to an invitation from Kate Brian I was on the panel at the Fertility Forum at the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists in London yesterday. The event was attended by professionals and the general public with topics that covered a range of fertility...
International Women’s Day 2019
It was such a pleasure to be invited to talk at a local event celebrating International Women'd day yesterday. It was extra special for me because IWD in 2016 was the first time that I publicly spoke about being childless. The day was filled with so many wonderful...
I have something to tell you…
A friend of mine recently told me that she is pregnant. The wonderful thing about this was that she took the time to consider my feelings about her news. She has read my book and is sensitive to what I have been through (especially as she has friends in the same...
This black woman just wants to be heard
There have been times when I have wondered if I am in the right place or am I doing the right thing here??? It's one thing to sit behind a screen and write about my experiences or even be interviewed on someones platform but it's quite another to know if what I am...