Changing the Narrative:
Empowering Women
Living Without Children
What began as personal grief over involuntary childlessness evolved into a driving force for change.
Today, I am an author, activist, and facilitator who champions the stories and identities of women who longed for motherhood but whose paths unfolded differently — raising awareness and understanding of their experiences, transforming deep loss into solidarity, and silence into spaces of connection, healing and belonging.
A little about me…
The question “Do you have children?” once filled me with dread. For years I laughed it off, hiding the pain that followed my diagnosis of unexplained infertility. Processing that grief changed everything — it led me to Gateway Women, a community for women who are childless by circumstance, and helped me find my voice.
From that healing came my first book, Dreaming of a Life Unlived: Stories and Portraits of Women Without Children — a collection born from love, truth, and the determination to make our experiences visible.
A Little About Me…
Today, I am an author, activist, speaker, and facilitator creating spaces where women who longed for motherhood — especially Black women and women of colour — can speak openly about loss, belonging, and identity. I’ve shared my story on BBC Radio 4’s Woman’s Hour and numerous platforms, helping to change the narrative around the untold experiences of women living without children.
As a trained facilitator, psychodynamic therapist, and graduate of Gateway Women’s Plan B Mentorship Programme, I facilitate workshops, retreats, healing circles and conversations that transform silence into connection and grief into collective healing.
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Be SMALL!!!
It’s taken me a while to write this post after seeing the film Till a few weeks ago. It’s a film that brought deep anger, indescribable sorrow and, at times, uncontrollable tears in a matter of minutes. The depth as which I felt these feelings is something I’ve not...
BHM 2022 – Meet the Agojie Army
“To understand ourselves, we must revisit the steps of our ancestors” I saw The Woman King recently, after hearing about a black female army depicted in the film and along with knowing that Viola Davis was playing the lead role I just had to see it. The Woman...
BHM 2022 – Ora Washington
“To understand ourselves, we must revisit the steps of our ancestors” If I said that there was a tennis player dominating her sport, consistently winning titles every year but one for 10 years taking 12 straight doubles titles in both single, doubles and mixed doubles...