A friend of mine recently told me that she is pregnant. The wonderful thing about this was that she took the time to consider my feelings about her news. She has read my book and is sensitive to what I have been through (especially as she has friends in the same situation as me) and told me that she wanted me to know before she started announcing her news to others. She did consider not telling me, to spare me the heartache, but did not feel that this the right thing to do. She wanted me to know. She asked me if there was anything that she could do (to help me with my grief) during this time.
There was a time when the words “I am pregnant” would have left me in floods of tears. Now although I still feel a pang of sadness, it’s so small now that I barely notice it. But what I really appreciated was the care and consideration that was taken towards me and my feelings from someone who really valued me. Its funny, I am more emotional writing this blog (thinking about what my friend did for me) than I was hearing the news but I think it’s because I realise how much this person cares and I am so touched by her actions. Yes she could have hid the news to spare my feelings, something that I have been through before, but she took the time to make sure that I was ok, which meant the world to me.
I cannot sit here and honestly say that I will be ok over the next 7+ months, I just do not know. I wonder how I will feel watching her grow, watching her being excited about the bump, talking about babies first kick and watching others getting excited for her too but for now I will enjoy this moment knowing that I was cared for whilst having the opportunity to congratulate her on her wonderful news.
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