Changing the Narrative:
Empowering Women
Living Without Children
What began as personal grief over involuntary childlessness evolved into a driving force for change.
Today, I am an author, activist, and facilitator who champions the stories and identities of women who longed for motherhood but whose paths unfolded differently — raising awareness and understanding of their experiences, transforming deep loss into solidarity, and silence into spaces of connection, healing and belonging.
A little about me…
The question “Do you have children?” once filled me with dread. For years I laughed it off, hiding the pain that followed my diagnosis of unexplained infertility. Processing that grief changed everything — it led me to Gateway Women, a community for women who are childless by circumstance, and helped me find my voice.
From that healing came my first book, Dreaming of a Life Unlived: Stories and Portraits of Women Without Children — a collection born from love, truth, and the determination to make our experiences visible.
A Little About Me…
Today, I am an author, activist, speaker, and facilitator creating spaces where women who longed for motherhood — especially Black women and women of colour — can speak openly about loss, belonging, and identity. I’ve shared my story on BBC Radio 4’s Woman’s Hour and numerous platforms, helping to change the narrative around the untold experiences of women living without children.
As a trained facilitator, psychodynamic therapist, and graduate of Gateway Women’s Plan B Mentorship Programme, I facilitate workshops, retreats, healing circles and conversations that transform silence into connection and grief into collective healing.
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Blog
What rights do we really have over our bodies???
For as long as I can remember abortion has been that taboo word whispered behind closed doors and that’s if you ever dared to mention it, let alone (God forbid) you ever think about having one. Given the recent Supreme Court ruling in the US ending the right for a...
Boo Saville’s exhibition ‘Ma’
Thanks to an introduction from Jody Day, I got the opportunity to meet artist Boo Saville. Boo being a fan of Gateway Women and interested in the subject of involuntarily childless, reached out to Jody about her solo show in London this month. Being an involuntarily...
Hiding to Nothing
Back in 2020 I received an email from Anita Pati who, after being introduced to each other by Jody Day on a train ride home, contacted me as she was putting together a sequence of poetry based on women's experience of infertility and non-motherhood and asked...