Changing the Narrative:
Empowering Women
Living Without Children
What began as personal grief over involuntary childlessness evolved into a driving force for change.
Today, I am an author, activist, and facilitator who champions the stories and identities of women who longed for motherhood but whose paths unfolded differently — raising awareness and understanding of their experiences, transforming deep loss into solidarity, and silence into spaces of connection, healing and belonging.
A little about me…
The question “Do you have children?” once filled me with dread. For years I laughed it off, hiding the pain that followed my diagnosis of unexplained infertility. Processing that grief changed everything — it led me to Gateway Women, a community for women who are childless by circumstance, and helped me find my voice.
From that healing came my first book, Dreaming of a Life Unlived: Stories and Portraits of Women Without Children — a collection born from love, truth, and the determination to make our experiences visible.
A Little About Me…
Today, I am an author, activist, speaker, and facilitator creating spaces where women who longed for motherhood — especially Black women and women of colour — can speak openly about loss, belonging, and identity. I’ve shared my story on BBC Radio 4’s Woman’s Hour and numerous platforms, helping to change the narrative around the untold experiences of women living without children.
As a trained facilitator, psychodynamic therapist, and graduate of Gateway Women’s Plan B Mentorship Programme, I facilitate workshops, retreats, healing circles and conversations that transform silence into connection and grief into collective healing.
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Blog
The birthday message
As I sit here to today reflecting on the past 45 years, yes it's my birthday, I am amazed at what has gone and at what is to come. As most of you know I am on an emotional journey of self-discovery to finding my plan B so I took the day off work to have some time for...
The letter
I mentioned in a recent post titled 'The interview' the daunting prospect of telling my dad about the daily mail article that I was interviewed for. I was so afraid of how he'd react about my past and felt like I would be letting him down because he wanted so much for...
The interview
Jody day from Gateway Women (GW) recently asked if there was anyone who would be interviewed by Daily Mail for an article about being childless. When I read this request I thought that this would be a great, huge, step to take toward my healing but my inner voice...