Changing the Narrative:
Empowering Women
Living Without Children
What began as personal grief over involuntary childlessness evolved into a driving force for change.
Today, I am an author, activist, and facilitator who champions the stories and identities of women who longed for motherhood but whose paths unfolded differently — raising awareness and understanding of their experiences, transforming deep loss into solidarity, and silence into spaces of connection, healing and belonging.
A little about me…
The question “Do you have children?” once filled me with dread. For years I laughed it off, hiding the pain that followed my diagnosis of unexplained infertility. Processing that grief changed everything — it led me to Gateway Women, a community for women who are childless by circumstance, and helped me find my voice.
From that healing came my first book, Dreaming of a Life Unlived: Stories and Portraits of Women Without Children — a collection born from love, truth, and the determination to make our experiences visible.
A Little About Me…
Today, I am an author, activist, speaker, and facilitator creating spaces where women who longed for motherhood — especially Black women and women of colour — can speak openly about loss, belonging, and identity. I’ve shared my story on BBC Radio 4’s Woman’s Hour and numerous platforms, helping to change the narrative around the untold experiences of women living without children.
As a trained facilitator, psychodynamic therapist, and graduate of Gateway Women’s Plan B Mentorship Programme, I facilitate workshops, retreats, healing circles and conversations that transform silence into connection and grief into collective healing.
Recent Talks
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Blog
Dreaming of a Life Unlived: A Birthday Reflection
July 26th: Our Story Turns Another Page Dreaming of a Life Unlived turned another year older. My baby is now 8 and she’s fierce, full of feeling, and ever so slightly dramatic (just like me, really). If you’d told me all those years ago, when I was staring at a...
The Silent Grief at Work
Inclusion is not only about who is in the room, but whose stories are given space to breathe. On 9 July 2025, I was invited by Clyde & Co to deliver a lunchtime session titled "The Silent Grief: Understanding and Supporting the Childless Not By Choice...
Climate Justice Begins with the Body: Reflections from the Museum Late Night Event
When I was invited to speak at the Climate Justice Museum Late Night event at Oxford’s Museum of Natural History, I’ll admit I paused. Not because I didn’t want to be part of it but because I wondered: where do stories of infertility, fibroids, and reproductive...