Changing the Narrative:
Empowering Women
Living Without Children
What began as personal grief over involuntary childlessness evolved into a driving force for change.
Today, I am an author, activist, and facilitator who champions the stories and identities of women who longed for motherhood but whose paths unfolded differently — raising awareness and understanding of their experiences, transforming deep loss into solidarity, and silence into spaces of connection, healing and belonging.
A little about me…
The question “Do you have children?” once filled me with dread. For years I laughed it off, hiding the pain that followed my diagnosis of unexplained infertility. Processing that grief changed everything — it led me to Gateway Women, a community for women who are childless by circumstance, and helped me find my voice.
From that healing came my first book, Dreaming of a Life Unlived: Stories and Portraits of Women Without Children — a collection born from love, truth, and the determination to make our experiences visible.
A Little About Me…
Today, I am an author, activist, speaker, and facilitator creating spaces where women who longed for motherhood — especially Black women and women of colour — can speak openly about loss, belonging, and identity. I’ve shared my story on BBC Radio 4’s Woman’s Hour and numerous platforms, helping to change the narrative around the untold experiences of women living without children.
As a trained facilitator, psychodynamic therapist, and graduate of Gateway Women’s Plan B Mentorship Programme, I facilitate workshops, retreats, healing circles and conversations that transform silence into connection and grief into collective healing.
Recent Talks
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Blog
Menopause, Motherhood & Meaning: Why World Menopause Day Matters for Women Without Children
World Menopause Day is a moment to lift silence, shift narratives, and affirm that menopause is not just a physical transition, but also a site of deep emotional, social, and identity-shaping change.For many women, especially those who were unable to have the children...
From Invisible Wounds to Shared Belonging: Reflections from the BAATN Conference
The Weight of the Room Yesterday, I had the honour of being one of three keynote speakers at the BAATN Conference, where the theme was belonging. I went in wondering whether I’d pitched my talk in the right way. What unfolded left me wishing for more. What began as a...
BHM: Reclaiming Narratives and Telling the Stories History Forgot
When I was at school, Black history was squeezed into a neat little box. We learnt about slavery – I think (on reflection I can’t even remember if this was taught at school). I definitely didn’t learn about Martin Luther King or Rosa Parks while I was there, although...